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Having a relative care for your child can definitely put stress on your relationship with her. Both of you want what's best for your child, but you may have different ideas of what exactly that is. A relative care arrangement can sometimes create a false sense of authority for the caregiver, and your mom may occasionally get carried away.
She may seem to think she's boss or is the only one who really knows what's best for your child.
The key is to establish and maintain clear expectations (click here for our story on making relative care work). It's important for you and your mom to discuss all aspects of the care your daughter needs including any areas of disagreement.
Understand that she's not the only one who's going to have to compromise — pick your battles and let her have her way with issues that aren't as important to you. Let her know how much you appreciate her help and keep her feelings in mind when you discuss any problems. After all, you're her employer, but you're her daughter, too.
Maintaining a balance between your personal relationship and what is essentially a business arrangement can be difficult, but you can do it. And the result can be wonderful for your child, who'll benefit from an attentive, loving caregiver.